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MARCH 9, 2016
Managing Difficult Emotions.

… Pain. This familiar intense feeling of burning usually starts just below my navel, radiating up through my chest… 

 

Creating a excruciating pressing sensation between my breasts and moving up towards the throat. This energy – wanting to come out as a scream, a cry…

 

Tears appearing and pouring out of my eyes. And another wave – covering me head to toe…

 

I have been blessed not to experience much of a physical pain in this lifetime, the emotional one, however, is quite familiar
to me…

 

If painful emotions are part of your life, please read on as I’m going to outline a few ways of dealing with them that work well for me.

1. AWARENESS
Naming the emotions is an important part of understanding of what is happening to you

“Flying Birds technique”

  • Imagine as though your emotions are birds flying around in a large open space
  • It’s important to recognize that you are not your emotions
  • The true you are the observer, the space, the sacred container in which the birds are flying
  • Once you stop attaching yourself to the emotions and just witness them from a side – the pain becomes a lot more manageable to handle
  • Name the emotions and recognize all of the birds without judging them to be good or bad
  • Once you give each of them your proper attention – they may start expressing themselves and eventually quiet down

“Inner Child technique”

  • Notice if you could give a voice to the feelings you’re experiencing
  • Can you sense/feel or see who is the person/child that is communicating to you?
  • What is it that she needs from you, the adult?
  • Have a conversation, listen, receive

 

2. ACCEPTANCE
  • Accept that this is what you’re feeling right now
  • If you start judging yourself for having the emotions – it’s only going to add an extra layer of negativity on top of what you’re already feeling
  • Accept that the situation that is causing you stress is what
    it is

3. SURRENDER
  • Allow the feelings to move through you as waves
  • There’s no stopping the emotion – once the charge has accumulated inside of you, it needs to come out
  • The less resistance you put up against experiencing it, the less painful the movement is
  • All emotions eventually pass, keep this in mind whenever an extra strong wave hits you
4. PROCESSING
  • Processing happens differently for different emotions and people
  • Hitting a sofa with a pillow, having a temper tantrum on the floor when alone and ripping paper are great ways to release anger
  • Crying and journaling work well for pain, as do any types of artistic expression (collages, paintings, playing music)
  • Dancing and exercising are other excellent ways to move any energy through your body

5. SUPPORT
  • Please don’t underestimate how valuable help of others is – a loving hug, friendly conversation are all excellent ways to receive support
  • Nature walks, hugging a tree, feeling sunrays on your skin, Epson salt bath time
  • Energy healing and Meditation are other excellent ways to balance out the emotions and connect deeper into yourself

6. POSITIVE CHANGE
  • Once the emotion moves through you and you’re in a more balanced state – try to figure out what were the unmet needs behind the emotion
  • Make a simple action plan on how to make changes in your life to allow yourself more of happiness and joy focusing on bringing love and healing to your inner child

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
ZhenyaEvguenia Cheinis is an Energy Therapy Practitioner who graduated from the World's Premier Hands-on healing program.

With 4 years of extensive healing training and experience, avid interest in spirituality, human relationships, psychology and sexuality Evguenia is passionate about helping others live happy and essence-filled lives. www.evgueniacheinis.com

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